After leading dozens of coaching skills training over the years one of my favorite coaching descriptions comes from a former SME , Doug McLaren, who I co-faciltiated with for years. As he said, Co-Facilitation is a “Conversation with Intent”. You can find more about what I write about coaching for leaders in chapter 10 of in my latest book From One to Many: Best Practices for Team and Group Coaching.
Whether you are a leader coaching their team, and internal coach “professionally coaching “ others, or an external coach working with a team:
What coaching is…..
A conversation with intent
Focused on the present and geared towards the future
Focused on performance and relationships
Grounded in awareness, goals and action
Elicits what the person being coached knows
What coaching is not….
Simply a conversation with no direction
Focused on the past
Telling others what to do
Mentoring, Advising, Consulting
In fact, the International Coach Federation identifies eleven competencies for coaching, in which all coaching models should be grounded. These range from ethics, to designing the coaching agreement, to listening, goal setting and planning, designing actions, and creating awareness. Personally, I use these in all training of coaches I undertake - leaders, as well as the thousands of coaches I have supported in the last ten years as they develop their own group and team coaching work.
As you consider coaching how would you define it?